The Big Picture

I've been thinking about what all of us out here are saying. That is, those of us expressing such discontent with our lives.

I sometimes feel chastened by those who have greater problems than I. Here is the deal with my husband: he's a good, kind man who loves me. He's an involved father. He makes messes but does housework. He works everyday. He'd like our sex life to be better (that is, to exist). He goes to therapy with me.

I really struggle with the guilt of what I don't feel toward him. I should be happy. What, exactly, is my problem?

Well, the same problem with AAG.
And the same with Passionate Man.
Artful Dodger, Lady L, Desperate Husband...
etc etc etc.

Whether it's a lackluster sex life or Hell's Kitchen, we don't feel connected to the person we're married to.

We speak, but are not heard. For me, it's a lack of emotional empathy between my husband and I. I don't think he sees who I truly am anymore. But for others, it's more tangible. 'I need clean dishes.' 'I want good sex.' How can you feel intimate with someone when they can't respond to the simple stuff?


It's late. My brain is dead. That's the crux of what I wanted to say, anyway.